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N. Elizabeth Fried, Ph.D.
Coaching Corner: Now in Session
January 22, 2014: Is it Better to Be Loved or Feared?
The answer is that it is a balance of both. According
to a recent
Harvard Business Review article (July-August, 2013) by Amy J.C. Cuddy,
Matthew Hohut, and John Neffinger, current behavioral research shows us that
"...when we judge others—especially our leaders—we look first at two
characteristics: how lovable they are (their warmth, communion, or
trustworthiness) and how fearsome they are (their strength, agency, or
competence). Although there is some disagreement about the proper labels
for the traits, researchers agree that they are the two primary dimensions of
social judgment. Why are these traits so important? Because they answer
two critical questions: 'What are this person’s intentions toward me?' and 'Is
he or she capable of acting on those intentions?' Together, these assessments
underlie our emotional and behavioral reactions to other people, groups, and
even brands and companies."
The article offers solid research and practical
applications to help your leaders become more effective. It takes about 5
minutes to read. I encourage you to download the
PDF, read it and share it.
I thought it was great!
Additionally, Amy offered a
TED talk on how body postures shape who you are and influence how you
behave. Her research revealed that just two minutes practicing a power
pose can increase the testosterone (assertive, strength) and reduce cortisol
(stress) levels in your body. These hormonal changes impact your behavior
and how others perceive you. I found it fascinating. The information
can be helpful to anyone at any level in your organization.. Her video is
about 20 minutes, so I invite you to set aside some time to listen; you won't
Wonder Woman pose is one of the power poses Amy refers to. Try practicing
it for two minutes in private before an important meeting and see how it affects
the way you feel about yourself during the meeting. Did you participate
more? Did you sound more confident when you did contribute? Did
others respond to you differently?.
Did this resonate with you? Please share your
thoughts and email me a
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